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OK, so you’re seeing a woman, and you’re looking forward to getting some action.
Whether it’s a one-time thing, a fling, or a steady partner, you’re probably hoping for a “happy ending.”
But sometimes that ending can sneak up on you.
Finishing the race quickly is totally normal. It means you’re having a great time in bed.
It can even be flattering to your partner!
Still, you want to be in control of your bedroom marathon.
What’s a guy to do?
How can you last longer, help her climax, and master your performance?
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I’ve got some tried-and-true methods any guy can put to use right now.
We asked all our top sex experts for the best sex positions to help you last longer in bed–and here are the 7 best we could find.
These are positions you can use tonight, and they will instantly help you last longer. No crazy tricks, prescriptions, or difficult techniques–just you and the woman you’re with, having an amazing time.
Plus, studies show that women prefer to sleep with men who mix things up in bed, so she’s more likely to come back for more… see what else you’ve got…
Try these positions next time you want to go the extra mile. 😉
Both of you lie on your sides—you guessed it—face-to-face.
She lifts her leg and puts it around your waist. Simple!
This move is all about closeness and eye contact.
You won’t be able to get extremely deep penetration.
Sometimes that’s a good thing!
Shallow penetration will help you slow down, focus on her, and last longer.
2) The Spoon
Both you and your lady lie on your sides. You’re the “big spoon,” she’s the “little spoon.” In other words, you’re behind her.
She scoots against you, with her butt pushing against your groin.
Since you won’t be able to see where you’re going, you might need to feel your way and guide yourself with your fingers.
Once you’re in position, try grinding, instead of thrusting.
This might be the absolute best position for guys who want to last longer.
Just like Face-to-Face, you won’t be overwhelmed by deep penetration.
Shallow penetration means more stimulus in her clitoral region, so she’s sure to enjoy this one too. 🙂
3) The Twist
This is another version of The Spoon.
Lie front-to-back in the spoon position.
Instead of keeping her legs together, your lady opens her legs like a pair of scissors.
Now shift on top of her, as if you were doing missionary position.
Keep in mind, she stays on her side.
Your stomach and chest should press against her.
(Support yourself with your arms—try not to squish her!)
Now grind away.
Try mixing up The Spoon with this position.
You can go back and forth between The Spoon and The Twist if The Twist puts too much pressure on your arms, or is uncomfortable for the woman.
You’ll both get to enjoy some variety with this one too.
Plus, changing your position will help you last longer naturally.
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4) Missionary Grind
You’ve probably noticed: it’s darn hard to last in missionary.
And that’s because quick thrusting overwhelms you with sensation.
But with just a little adjustment, you can do a missionary marathon.
Instead of thrusting, try grinding.
Move with a gentle, circular motion—as if you were dancing.
Less fast thrusting = more control.
Which means more pleasure for her…
And more endurance for you.
Pro tip: Move your body slightly higher—closer to her head—than you would for normal missionary.
Next, ask your lady to spread her legs a little wider.
This will give her extra clitoral stimulation, making this position excellent for both of you.
You may even reach the finish line at the same time! 😉
5) Missionary Outercourse
Here’s another new take on an old favorite.
One thing makes this move different.
Believe it or not, there’s no penetration.
Get in the missionary position and place yourself between her labia.
Now, grind (very gently) against her clitoris.
This is a very generous move—it’s all about her, but I can promise you’ll enjoy it too.
No penetration means you won’t have to struggle with too much stimulus.
You get a new sensation, plus lots of great body and eye contact.
Like Missionary Outercourse, this one’s original.
You will get penetration, but you won’t use any thrusting.
Sit up with your legs crossed.
Your lady lowers herself into your lap. You should be facing each other.
She wraps her legs behind your back.
Once you’re in position, it’s time to grind.
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Deep penetration + grinding = amazing sensations.
Plus, by taking the thrust out of the equation, you get extra control.
Pro tip: Use this position if you’re getting close and need to “cool off” for a minute.
It can buy you time without killing the mood!
7) Lying Doggy
OK, the name might make you question my wisdom, but hang on.
I know doggy-style is often a finisher—the last move in a session!
It can be really hard to last long in this position.
But I bet you’ve never tried it this way…
First, get in regular doggy-style.
Instead of staying up on her knees, your lady lies flat on her stomach.
You lie on top of her, gently, with your belly on her back.
This is basically the same as missionary, only she’s on her stomach.
Make sense? Now grind and thrust slowly.
If you have trouble staying in, your lady can raise her rear a little and arch her back.
Lying Doggy has all the best parts of doggy style:
A great angle and a great view.
But it also helps you stay in control.
You’ll be in charge of pace and penetration.
It’s up to you how long you go.
And if you really want to last longer in bed…
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[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on June 28, 2020.]
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If You’ve Ever Felt a Fear of Rejection, Then You’re Not Alone–Here’s How to Prevent It From Happening To You…
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What does it mean when a woman says “no”?
Of course, I’m not talking about the half-hearted “no” that a woman might say flirtatiously.
I’m talking about the “no” she uses after you ask her out, or invite her back to your place.
Usually, it means she’s not interested–but there are a variety of reasons why she may have lost interest.
But before I jump into the less obvious reasons a woman might say “no,” I have a little disclaimer:
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You should take any “no” that she says as a final no. There is no way in this medium that I can tell you that “no” means “yes,” because it doesn’t.
However, a “no” doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t like you. So today, I’m going to share 5 little-known reasons why she might say “no”…
And exactly what you can do about it.
1) She Feels Danger
If a woman wants to feel safe, then any possibility of danger triggers an instant “no” response.
This includes talking about dangerous things.
One guy once said to me:
I met these two goth girls, and I kept joking about taking them into the woods, and axes, hahaha!! They were loving it! They kept looking at each other like, ‘this guy is fun!’ It’s about reading the person you’re with and . . . “
The truth is, for every girl who loves jokes about getting slashed in the woods, there are 99 who are totally put off by it.
Add to that, a large percentage of the girls who are into this kind of humor are still frightened when a guy they just met starts talking about it.
And even if they are inwardly excited, they’ll probably make the sensible decision to stay in a well-lit public space until they can make an excuse to jump in a cab.
It’s sort of like sloppy clothing or body odor–it’s not impossible to “seal the deal” if you do this, but it greatly reduced your odds of sexual success.
So don’t make her feel danger, and your odds of getting a “yes” response go way up.
2) You Disagree With Her
Sometimes, it seems like I advocate disagreement. Women–particularly women who have experience turning heads–respond well to a man who stands up to them.
In fact, women are so attracted to a man who challenges them that they often believe that being argumentative (“sassy,” or “fiery”) makes them more attractive to men.
However, this kind of disagreement and challenging, in general, is advanced behavior.
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It’s not as simple as saying “no,” since someone needs to seduce her, and if you are disagreeing with her, seducing her becomes trickier.
In fact, you’ll get further–especially if you can’t back up a resistant frame–agreeing while you disagree, like this:
Her: “I can’t go home with you!” Me: “I know. I can’t send you home at this hour!” Her: “…But I have to work in the morning.” Me: “I know! That’s why I want to make sure you get a good night’s sleep.”
That was an actual conversation, and I’ll let you guess where she ended up spending the night. 😉
3) She Feels Embarrassed
When do you go for the first kiss?
I have a friend who is extremely good-looking. Women love him.
One of his great moves is to lift the girl up while they’re dancing and, holding her up, make out with her in the middle of the dance floor.
It’s very showy, and her friends are almost always jealous. Very sexy.
It has a low closing rate, though, because once it’s over, the excitement and adrenaline and lust suddenly transform into embarrassment.
Everyone’s watching, and she’s on the dance floor with this guy who’s clearly getting ready to take her home and have sex with her.
That’s probably a good thing… but maybe not while everyone’s watching.
Who knows what goes through her mind, except that at this moment, with everyone watching, she is suddenly faced with a decision.
“What do I want to do now?”
This decision point could work in your favor, although it’s also likely to take her out of the present moment and put her into the past or future. And that can very easily cause her to say “no.”
4) She’s Worried About What Her Friends Will Think
The especially problematic part of her future-thinking is social.
Women are extremely social, and whether it influences her or not, she will certainly consider how her friends will react to her choice.
This is especially true if she has a moment to reflect, and her social group is visible to her (or vice versa).
While she may consider that her friends will be impressed (and if you’ve made out with her on the dance floor, maybe they are already impressed), she also may just not know.
You may have heard the saying, “The confused mind says ‘no’.” And it’s absolutely true.
Which brings me to the final unexpected reason she might say “no”…
A lot of the time, a woman might like you… but she also may have some uncertainty lurking in the back of her mind.
She might not know what’s going to happen if she goes home with you…
If she’s going to like you…
Or if you’ll still like her after you sleep together…
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And ultimately, she might just not know enough about you to say “Yes.”
Which sucks, because it’s possible that she might really like you! But if she feels that uncertainty, then it could cause her “maybe I like him” to transform into a “not tonight.”
Ultimately, there’s no real way to prevent a woman from saying “no.”
However, there is a way you can spot the women who are most likely to say “yes.”
How? I’ll show you:
The Easiest Way to Avoid Rejection…
…is to take the girls who are most likely to say “no” out of the equation… and only talk to the girls who you know are interested in you.
What do I mean by this? How can you “know” if a girl is interested… before ever talking to her???
Well, I won’t sit here and tell you there’s some magic way you can “read her mind”… but there is something else you can read:
Her body language.
I’m not just talking about “basic” body language, though… not the obvious, “I wanna f**k you” eyes… these are subtler signals she’ll send you.
For example, a woman will make this kind of eye contact when she’s feeling attracted to you…
…and many women do this with their feet when they’re turned on, and want to get to know you better.
The truth is, there are dozens of these subtle signs a woman gives off… and when you see them… you’ll know she’s way more likely to say “yes” when you ask for her #, or invite her back to your place at the end of the night. 😉
Of course, if she has a boyfriend, or maybe she’s in some kind of bad mood… then there’s no guarantee she’ll come home with you…
…though many guys in our community know that these signs have made the difference between getting one, or maybe two #’s a month… and getting consistent same night sex:
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[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on June 29, 2020.]
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When it comes to beautiful, intelligent women – one of the easiest ways to shoot yourself in the foot is to try to impress her with smooth lines, fancy cars or other techniques to try to convince her to like you.
So what should you do instead?
First of all, we’re assuming that you want to make dating beautiful women as simple and stress-free as possible. That’s what this advice is designed to help you do.
Learn to resist the urge to impress the top-class girls and you will be well on your way to meeting, dating and relating with extremely high quality women without ever having to convince them to like you.
A Case Study on Smart Beautiful Women
Bill meets a girl. She’s great. Gorgeous. Incredible job. Smart. Exciting. She’s even funny! And to top it all off, she seems into him!
‘She’s amazing!’ He thinks.
Just like the last case study, Bill puts on his best performance. He really wants to impress her. He tells her all about his great lifestyle and all the cool stuff going for him. He doesn’t meet many girls like this so he really wants to make her feel a connection. He even starts making plans with her to go on future dates and telling her how unique, cool and different she is from all the other girls out there.
He pulls out every trick in the book to try to convince her that he is the right man for her. This woman is exactly the reason why he wanted to get better at persuasion and “getting the girl.”
Success! They go on a couple dates and he spares no expense. “I better do things right” he thinks. Things are going smoothly. They seem to have such a great connection after he’s shared so much of his past with her. He even sends her frequent messages to let her know about the cool things going on in his life and to let her know that he likes her for more than just her body.
And then … she’s gone. She stops returning his phone calls and messages with anything more than “I’m busy.” Meanwhile, Bill is frantically planning out how he can “get her” to like him again. But all his pushing and persistence leads to nothing because she is already gone and he’s left scratching his head.
The next time he goes out to meet more women he tries even harder to persuade girls to like him, under the false assumption that “if it didn’t work with her then I need to improve my persuasion skills.”
In the end, Bill goes right back into the cycle of persuading every girl he meets to like him.
Have you ever done this?
Symptom: You feel disappointed and let-down when girls you really like leave you or stop returning your phone calls.
Cause: Feeling like you need to convince and persuade girls if you want them to stay with you for the long-run.
“Boo Hoo! If only I could have done a better job making her like me I could have kept her!”
Analysis: The thing about persuasion is that even if a guy can convince a girl to do something she didn’t originally want, the minute he stops persuading her, she leaves.
An interaction that starts with persuasion can only keep moving forward with persuasion. This puts many guys in the (usually unnoticed) cycle of trying to persuade and convince her as long as he wants her in his life or else he risks losing her when he turns off the persuading tactics.
Persuading a girl to stay with him is almost impossible for a man to do for an extended period of time. The constant internal stress of feeling the need to persuade and convince girls to like him ends up interfering with his overall happiness and ability to meet really great women. The worst part is, for the really great women like the one above, persuasion simply doesn’t cut it. She can have any man she wants. Why would she stay with a guy who has to convince her to stay when she could just as easily get one she already knows is the kind of man she wants?
The Underlying Problem Behind Feeling the Need to Impress Smart Beautiful Women (and a Solution!)
Lack of a way to meet women that can actually lead to a relationship where you are both mutually and extraordinarily happy rather than one where you are in a constant struggle to persuade her to stay with you.
What is the solution? Learn to be the kind of man that great women want to be with so that you don’t have to worry about how to persuade her to stay with you.
What if you knew the underlying problem behind feeling intimidated by beautiful women? Approaching a girl would become simply a matter of daily life. Read more to find out about how to move beyond being scared to approach women.
Are You Intimidated by Beautiful Women?
Have you ever felt intimidated by beautiful women?
You know, you’re out walking around and then you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman nearby. You want to approach but you’re mind is filled with all kinds of excuses why you shouldn’t?
First we’re going to give you a short case study that highlights a big problem for men when it comes to approaching a girl they find attractive.
A Case Study On Approaching a Girl When You’re Intimidated by Beautiful Women
Frankie is going about his day when he sees a gorgeous woman walking his way. Long legs, great body, sexy style. An intimidating beauty.
He starts running through his mind.
“What can I say?” “What should I do?” “I should talk to her! But how?” “What if I mess up?” “How can I make her like me?”
He gets stuck on thinking of the perfect thing to say so that this beautiful girl likes him. His mind races, playing all the possibilities over and over. And before he knows it, it is over.
“I should talk to her! I should talk to her! Bah! I should have talked to her!”
She’s already passed him by and he missed his chance because he got stuck in his head instead of taking action.
Once again, Frankie is left feeling like he doesn’t have what it takes to approach gorgeous women.
Scared to Approach Women?
Ever felt that way?
You see a stunningly attractive woman and your body tightens with an anxiety
Symptom: You feel nervous or anxious about approaching beautiful women.
Cause: Thinking that if you don’t make a great approach then you’ll have a tough time convincing her to like you.
“Oh no! If I’m not good at convincing her to like me with my approach then I can’t get her!”
Analysis: Most guys who struggle with women feel pressured to ‘say X’ or ‘do Y’ in order to convince each girl to like them. When it comes to meeting more women, the pressure of trying to convince each girl to like him comes out as anxiety and nervousness. Since the pressure gets worse the more a guy is attracted to a girl, these guys often end up hesitating and missing out on approaching the kind of women they really want.
This kind of guy is afraid that if he makes a mistake the girl will walk out of his life forever. It’s as if he sees girls as a special combination lock and thinks that if he doesn’t have the exact right code he can’t unlock her.
Talk about pressure!
The Underlying Problem Behind Being Scared to Approach Women Is …
Feeling the need to persuade and convince women to like you. This comes from a lack of understanding and knowledge (followed up by experience) on how to meet women without any tricks to convince and persuade her at all.
Want to NOT suck at meeting beautiful women? Well you’ll want to avoid these 5 common mistakes guys make when it it comes to meeting women. We’ve seen too many guys do these. Avoid them at all costs.
Try to meet beautiful women where there aren’t any women.
When it comes to meeting beautiful women, we like to meet lots of women. We like to meet really hot women. And we like to meet lots of hot women quickly. We’ve found that this is, hands-down, the most simple, fastest path to building an abundant dating life full of attractive women who really like you. Since this is our strategy, it kind of sucks when there aren’t any hot women, or even any women at all around to talk to. There’s an old saying: “Don’t go fishing in the Sahara.” There are major metropolitan cities all over the world bristling and overflowing with single, attractive women. Your job is to set up your life in such a way that you have easy access to be able to meet lots of women. If you want to suck at meeting women, then try fishing in the Sahara.
Passively read dating advice and never take action.
Another way to suck severely at meeting beautiful women is to read tons and tons of ‘pickup’ material and/or pop psychology dating advice without ever taking any action. Some people refer to this as keyboard jockeying. It’s when a guy knows everything there is to know about all sorts of hypnotic patterns, magic tricks, games and gambit, social rules and funny one-liners, yet since they never leave the house, then they never end up actually meeting any women, despite all of the seemingly useful knowledge that they’ve learned. Any pattern, trick, game, gambit, rule or one-liner that any guy knows is actually worthless until he gets up, get outs and starts talking to lots of women every single day. If you want to suck at meeting women, try reading endless tomes of Dating Advice / Pop-psychology.
Rely on your friends and ‘wingmen’ as crutches.
While we all enjoy a good fun night out with ‘da bros,’ using them as a crutch and/or an excuse to head out to talk to girls is not only inefficient, but hurts guys in the long run when it comes to meeting beautiful women. The biggest problem is that it trains you to rely on other guys in order to take action on your dating life. What happens when you see a pretty girl you’d like to meet and you’re by yourself? Heading out with the guys also brings the problem of guys stepping on each other’s egos as they go about trying to talk to girls. Meeting women goes from searching for a high quality, living breathing beautiful woman to relate with and moves towards competing with other guys to see who has the biggest… skillset. The result is lower quality women for everyone. Also, there’s the issue of the dudes we hang out with being actually, genuinely more interesting and fun to talk to than any women at the given venue… This leads to endless circle-jerk chode-crystal tribing without anyone putting their balls on the line to go meet new women. If you want to suck at meeting women, rely on your other male friends and only meet women when you’re together in a frat pack.
Become dependent on certain situations/locations for meeting beautiful women.
A problem that’s kind of like a better, evolved version of ‘fishing in the Sahara’ is get stuck only being able to approach women in one environment. For example, a guy might only feel comfortable talking to women in a bar because he’ll tell himself the excuse that “Women come here to meet guys.” And while he might actually be great at meeting women in bars all around town, he gets lead-feet when he see a hottie walking down the aisle at a grocery store. Some guys are okay with this because they can satisfy all their goals with dating and women simply with one type of environment. The problem comes in when they get stuck and dissatisfied with their women and are unwilling to step outside their literal comfort zone. If you want to suck at meeting women, stay trapped in the little bubble where you know meeting beautiful women is safe and happy.
Let your excuses prevent you from meeting beautiful women.
Probably the best way to suck at meeting women, however, is developing the bad habit of consistently letting any number of BS excuses stop you from approaching women. We’ve all done it at some point or another, so we all know what it sounds like. “I’m too busy reading the ingredient list on this soda pop can to go and talk to her,” or “She’s absolutely stunning, but she’s walking so fast I would have to run to catch up with her,” or “She smiled at me, but I think it’s because I’m having a bad hair day… So I’m not gonna go talk to her.” If you want to suck at meeting women, then make ridiculous, hilarious excuses to not go and talk to any given woman that you find attractive.
How can you deal with girls who ignoring you and walking away when you approach them?
Since all of our advice based on going out every day and approaching *lots* of women, we’ve come up with a handful of ways to deal girls walking away from us when we approach.
Keep in mind that this advice is specific to approaching women in places with high pedestrian traffic (streets, shopping centers, malls, etc.) but is just as useful anytime a girl ignores your approach.
What To Do When A Girl Ignores Your Approach: Understand the benefits of women walking away from you
Arguing with the reality of a situation doesn’t change it.
When a woman walks away, she’s gone.
Move on to the next one with haste.
Guys who insist on lingering, analyzing and moping around when she doesn’t stop to talk merely make getting success with women much harder.
We look at getting depressed not as a mental state, but as a lack of taking the right action. Depression is a lack of action; it’s stagnation. If you at the word “depress,” you can break it down to “de” and “press” – “de,” the prefix for “not,” and “press,” as in “press on,” or “press forward.” By not pressing on, guys stop taking action, get stagnant and as a result feel all black-trenchcoaty.
The way to avoid or counter it is to – TAKE ACTION.
Simply continue on and go talk to the next attractive woman you see, while realizing that every woman who doesn’t talk to you saves time, money, stress, heartache and headache in the long run…
Let’s face it, if she was interested in you, she would have stopped to talk. Our research has proven this, thousands and thousands of times.
Getting caught up with women who aren’t into you is one of the most painful experiences guys can face. Be happy she had the courtesy to let you know right off the bat that you weren’t the answer to her romantic dreams.
That’s great news, because now you don’t have to marry her!
For guys who insist on persuading a woman who isn’t fundamentally interested in them to stop, talk, give up their number, drag them out on a date and push to get sex from them, they’re setting themselves up for failure every time their “persuasion skills” don’t go their way.
These guys get lots of false positives from women which reinforces the same behavior that will set them up to really feel bad when they finally meet a girl they really like and she dumps him. These false positives usually come in the form of women who aren’t actually into them but are willing to listen, give their numbers, and go on dates with these simply because of they’re working the dancing monkey angle so hard.
On the other hand, when you simply talk to women to identify which ones like you, then you can start to see how every woman that doesn’t talk to you brings you closer and closer to one who does. This is the kind of woman who will be very happy to do everything in her power to make your life more happy and exciting.
Likewise, if she wasn’t into your image enough to stop and talk, then you weren’t her type at that particular time and place – that’s good. When women walk away from you without so much as giving the time of day, it allows you to both accept no from women and say no to women.
Talking to massive amounts of women and having massive amounts of women walk away from you puts you in good company. Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times while hitting 714 homeruns. Michael Jordan missed over 9000 shots and lost more than 300 games in his career.
Being able to accept when a woman walks away from you is the path to a true abundance reality… And not just some feel good wishy-washy magic thinking abundance mentality… We’re talking about Reality. Men of true abundance who are more than happy to let women go who aren’t making things go smoothly with them.
When women walk away, it’s a useful opportunity to make more useful excuses that don’t have the world revolving around precious little you. Egocentric excuses like “she doesn’t like MEEEEEEE” often miss the other 5,324,926 reasons why an individual girl might not have talked to you.
Remember, it takes two to tango.
Ultimately, we don’t know why she ignored us (unless you’re psychic). So if guys insist on attaching ridiculous stories to the realities of the situation, then they might as well attach resourceful, useful, liberating stories too.
If there’s nothing there between you two, there’s nothing there. A is A. If she blows right by without even glancing at you, wish her well and move on to the next hot woman.
Likewise, external excuses turn into opportunities to fix up, adjust and test different variables in your approach. Example being “Must be that I didn’t shave today, that’s why she didn’t stop and talk to me.” Simply shaving, then getting back out the next with your smooth, freshly shaven face gets rid of that external excuse. In fact, we can even change that excuse changes to the more productive, “I’ll shave properly tomorrow that so I can know whether or not that actually does have any effect on meeting women or not when I head out again tomorrow.”
So in order to improve your ability to deal with women ignoring your approaches, first accept reality. A good way to do so is to take stats talking to women over the course of a month. Record how many women talked to, how many stopped to talk, how many gave their phone numbers, etc. and get a baseline for your engage rate.
Then you know what reality is. No need for crazy excuses or stories. Makes it a lot easier to work out and improve from there.
So how do you follow up on all those phone numbers you got by now that you’re bringing so many new women into your life using the advice on Loveawake blog?
Without getting into the nitty-gritty details of our comprehensive system for dealing with calling a girl, here are 3 simple tips to keep in mind. These are applicable whenever you call a girl to ask her out and schedule a date, and they’re probably useful in most other calling situations as well.
Always Smile When Calling A Girl
It’s important to smile on the phone. As the old saying goes, “They can hear your smile over the phone.” While calling, we want to give off a friendly vibe without getting caught up in small talk or conversation. We want the call to be short and to the point – schedule the date in a friendly, prompt manner, while saving all the questions, answers, jokes, humor and stories for the date itself. Best way to do that is to simply smile while you’re on the phone, and allow your voice to carry that levity with it.
Look In The Mirror When Calling A Girl
The next tip for calling a girl is to look in the mirror. This helps because you can make sure you are relaxed and speaking naturally. Seeing yourself smiling will help you internalize the kind of positive vocal tonality that you project into the phone call. Or, if you’re not smiling, looking at your dour face will quickly give you the swift kick to the pants you need to remember to show them pearly whites. Watch yourself, relax your shoulders and smile.
Stand Up While Talking On The Phone
Standing while talking gives you more authority, resonance and voice projection. It also makes it easier to breathe properly and thus speak properly. Stand up with your phone in hand, face the mirror, smile, dial her number, speak slowly with a friendly tone and keep the conversations short, polite and to-the-point. Schedule a date with her (or not, depending on her response), then get off the phone. Write down anything important about the phone call and then go to the next date prospect in your list of numbers and give her a call.
Repeat this until you’ve called all the numbers on your prospect list, then head out, go meet some more women and hustle some new phone numbers.
We weighed in on the age-old, controversial topic “Who should pay?” with an earlier article – in short, we think the guy should pay because it gives him more useful information about his date than if he chooses not to and saves his him money in the long run. Now, since we’re assuming we guys are paying, we’ll give our perspective on how much money we should spend on the first date.
Also, to be clear, we recommend going on a Time Limited Coffee Date (TLCD) before going on a “proper” first date. On TLCDs, buying yourself and her a drink shouldn’t cost more than $10 US, even less is better. Keep it simple, keep it inexpensive, keep it short.
Two big reasons:
No use investing a lot of time, energy, money and emotion in a stranger who we may never see again. Sitting down over coffee for 45-75 minutes gives both parties tons of information that they’ll use to decide whether or not to send / accept any more date offers.
By keeping TLCDs and dates 1-10 inexpensive, it will anger and drive away gold-diggers + other women with nefarious plans for you bank account. Save the more involved and expensive plans for girls who you’ve put through the screening process
From the first proper date after the TLCD about the 10th or 11th date, we recommend keeping it under $20-$30 a date. This might get a little tricky, as we also recommend including a fun, exciting activity AND a meal while planning dates.
So how do we keep things within budget those first ten dates?
Activities: keep the activities free / cheap. Here’s a slightly less personal list of the activities we recommend for the first ten dates: frisbee, badmitton, ping-pong, billiards, darts, ice skating, arcades / game centers, playing catch, batting cages, putt-putt golf and the driving range. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have any skill in these things – if she’s into you, it’ll be hilarious and fun anyway.
Meals: if the activities are free, then it should be easier to keep the meal portion in the $10-20 for two range. Here’s an extremely personal, subjective list of the kinds of meals I like for those first ten dates: sandwiches (about $10 for two), picnic (goes good with free activities like frisbee, groceries for picnic food can be between $5-20), or ice cream (although it’s not a proper ‘meal’ it still serves the same function on a date, about $5-15 depending on the store).
If she’s generous, she’ll offer to pitch in. Accept and let her from the second date on if she offers, but NEVER assume she will. Always bring enough cash for your date plan for both yourself and the girl. One way to let her pay is this:
You: (Paying for an activity or meal)
Her: Oh! How much?
You: Don’t worry, I got it.
Her: Really?! Thanks!
You: You can buy me a new car next time. (She probably laughs) Or, you can get the next meal. That works too.
After the 10th date or so, it’s up to you and your budget on how much you spend on date. If she’s proven over the course of several months that she’s totally into, she has a great core personality that matches with yours, and continues to bring her A-Game to every date, then occasionally taking her out for an expensive dinner or giving her a gift is probably ok. Until then, run a tight ship.
There’s nothing quite like first date butterflies – you wonder what kind of spark there will be, pray that you don’t spill food on yourself and spend hours meticulously primping. But for all that time spent getting yourself mentally and physically prepared, don’t forget to take a hard look at what your man is wearing on a first date – even his choice of accessories can convey a distinct message about his personality.
As a fashionista and the community manager for Loveawake, the premier online community for singles, I know about the importance of a proper first date wardrobe. I’m here to help you read between the lines – or paisley or plaid – to learn whether he’s second date material or just a fling.
Hats: Obviously there are far too many types of hats to make a sweeping generalization. Though hats are a distinct way for a guy to show his personality, they can sometimes scream for too much attention on a first date. Venues where a hat is OK: outdoor sporting event (baseball cap), speakeasy (fedora), poetry slam (beret), skiing (beanie) or monster truck rally (trucker hat).
Nice watch: Some guys’ idea of a “nice” watch is simply that it ticks and doesn’t have a superhero on it. If your man flashes a classy timepiece, it shows he is traditional and wants to put his best foot forward.
Scarf: In spring and summer: Prissy. You’ll probably have to put your coat down for him to cross a puddle. In winter: Mature. It takes a big man to admit he’s cold.
Sunglasses: He thinks he’s too cool for school. It’s important to look into your date’s eyes when you’re getting to know them, and let’s face it, it’s not like he had to dodge a crowd of paparazzi on his way to meet you. Occasion where sunglasses are OK on a date: You’re outside and squinting uncomfortably to see your love interest.
Cufflinks: Let me just wipe my drool… ah yes, cufflinks – they show ambition. Not a lot of guys own them, even if dress wear requires them. They’re truly an investment piece, and show he cares about his appearance and where he’s going in life.
Umbrella: Meticulous. If he thought to check the weather before your date and made the effort to lug an umbrella with him, he’s clearly a planner – and a keeper! Added bonus: there’s room for two under that umbrella.
Suspenders: He thinks he’s unique. Unless he’s Steve Urkel, suspenders are a guy’s way of showing how “different” and cool he is. He’ll try to sell you a story about how he found these ol’ suspenders at a thrift store in Williamsburg, but trust me, he spent $500 to look that vintage.
Bracelet: Sentimental. Do you know any men who wear bracelets that don’t have some sort of significant emotional meaning? Ask him about it as an icebreaker and get to know what makes him tick.
The bottom line is that you have to give any man points for accessorizing – it’s so much easier to just throw on a shirt and jeans rather than go that extra mile. When a guy puts in the effort, take notice of these non-verbal cues to see if he could be your perfect match.